Keeping Your Mental Health In Check: A Black Girl's Playbook

Updated: Sep 25

We are living in hard times right now and keeping your mental health in check is very important. Don't get me wrong, I am no doctor or therapist to give you the formula on how to stay totally mentally healthy especially right now, but as a blogger, content creator and black woman I can only try to contribute on how I can help my fellow people by sharing what I know.

Right now the black community has been hurt deeply and we are seeing everyday injustice happening all over the country to the black community over and over. As a black woman I can't say how many times I felt mentally exhausted and frustrated every time I go on social media and see another video of a black brother or sister getting killed or mistreated by the hands of either police brutality or receiving harsh racism actions just because of the color of their skin.

Being black in this country is hard, but being a black woman in this country? There is no word to describe the fights, stereotypes, down looks, sexism and mental exhaustion we experience every single day. Right now, it has doubled because of the deaths of our black brothers and sisters we have been seeing lately (without forgetting the unless amount of others who died unjustly in the past) really took a toll on our mental health.

For that reason, I decided to share a few things to help my fellow and beautiful black women keep their mental health in check as much as they can.

1.Take the day off. Don't apologize or feel bad for taking the day off to take care of yourself. It is not everyday you can have your mind on working or doing whatever daily tasks you do. You have the right to take the day off, to rest your mind, not think about something else and enjoy a moment of total peace.

2. Do a breathing exercise or meditate. I have been having panic attacks lately especially when I start thinking about my brother who could be hurt one day in the hands of police just because they have the power to do so. Just by thinking about it, I have been having heavy panic attacks and fear of being in that situation. The only thing that help me evacuate these thoughts for a moment have been by doing breathing exercises, empty my mind or meditation (I use the FitOn App for meditation). When I focus my mind on those exercises I get to feel some kind of release which ends up being very helpful.

3. Listen to peaceful and inspiring podcasts. Listening to some inspiring podcasts is very helpful to help your mind to stay at ease. It helps you to listen to somebody else's voice, listen to a great conversation and even laugh here and there based on what you are listening. Here are a few great podcasts to listen to right now.

4. Turn off social media for a few hours. I know it can be hard to stay off social media even for a few hours (even for me it is very hard) but it is vey important to do so. Social media has been here to shed a light on all the atrocities that happened lately and for the fact that it is good to stay informed, it also takes a heavy toll on your mental health by always seeing a new video or hurtful statement about the black community. For that reason, it is important to take yourself off from social media for a few hours or a day (if can be) to help you focus on something else or just rest your mind.

5. Practice a self care activity. When I say practice a self care activity I want to say by that every time when you feel overwhelmed and don't know what to do to release that negative energy try to do something that you always love to do and you know can make you smile or distracted for a few hours. It can be cooking, reading a book, writing a journal, watch your favorites movies or tv series, workout, clean your house, crafting, painting, skincare time and so on. Personally, I like to do some yoga (I also use the FitOn app) every time when I feel overwhelmed because it helped me focus on how I can can stretch and align both my body and mind. Just by focusing on practicing something that you love, it helps you release that negative energy that flows in you.

6. Surround yourself with positive energy only. Right now, it is the time to surround yourself by some positive energy which means your family and friends who can understand and support you right now. Don't hesitate to talk to them and share your feelings, feel at ease to release to negatives and sad thoughts in your head by sharing with your loved ones and receive some love, encouragement, support and love from them. They are here for that.

7. Don't apologize for being hurt. Don't feel ashamed or apologized for expressing your hurt. You have every rights to do so and don't let nobody tell you the contrary. Let them call you the "angry black women" and tell them back that yes you are angry, angry to live in a world where people who have the skin color as you are being persecuted just because they are different. You have the right to tell your side of the story, if you want to rant do it, if you want to scream, scream your lungs out until you feel better. The only goal here is for you to be ok and nothing else.

So here is in a nutshell, a few thing dear beautiful and strong black women can practice. I am here to help you as much as I can with the small voice I have. Don't let them destabilize you, don't let them make you feel like you don't have a voice or no place in here. You are strong, beautiful, resilient, a fighter and no one else can take that from you. You are a superwoman, but as superwoman you also need some time off to take care of yourself, so please do it. We depend on you and we love you. Lots of love, xoxo.


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