Updated: Oct 23, 2020
Self discipline is defined as "the ability to control one's feelings and overcome one's weaknesses; the ability to pursue what one thinks is right despite temptations to abandon it." according to google which is quite the good definition. The power of self discipline does come into play in the different stages of our lives and it is up to us to maintain this discipline in everything we do or want to be or achieve (relationship, careers, goals, wellness and more). We all hear everyday, that you have to have self discipline in order to achieve whatever goals you want to reach in life and without it you can't reach it. However, it is not all people who get to be able to maintain the power of self discipline for many reasons such as lack of focus, lack of knowledge on where to even start and more. For these reasons, a peer pressure also comes in the equation because you get the feeling that everything you want to either reach or achieve in life are slipping thru your fingers since there is no self discipline.
Many people may argue with many reasons such as "you are born with it", "only the strong minds can do it", "if you are weak you can't be self discipline" and so on and so forth. I won't argue if any of those are true or false, but what I can share with you is the fact that having the power of self discipline only comes within you. From this sentence, I want to ask then, "What is the process of creating self discipline?". Well let me tell you one thing for sure, I am not here to give the "special formula" on how to create your self discipline (because I don't know either) but I can guide by sharing with you a few points on the process of creating your own self discipline.
"Self discipline is the center of all material success"
Be honest with yourself and admit your flaws. What I mean by that, is the fact that, as humans we tend to sometimes hide our own flaws by thinking we are doing this or that, which we know deep down they are not helping us in our lives and sometimes do affect the people around us but it is easier to not ignore these flaws and give ourselves excuses for the actions we are making. This is why, the first step you gotta take if you want to even create and/or maintain self discipline you gotta be honest with yourself. Do a deep dive in your mind, admit the flaws you have, the ones you know that they are blocking you from being better at the things you know you can do it. Accept these flaws, there is nothing to be ashamed of, you are by yourself, nobody needs to know, take the time to observe your own flaws.
Find out or observe what are your qualities. After finding out your flaws, it is time to finding out what are your qualities. What are you good at? What do you know you can do easily, be able to pose actions which you know can be beneficial for your life and the people around you? What makes you you? Take the time to ask yourself all of these questions and you can even take notes if that help. Try to make sure to find out your own benefits to your life.
Meet yourself halfway. From finding out your flaws and admitting them, you also have to decide to find a way on getting rid of them so your life can be better. However, nobody is perfect and of course all of your flaws cannot disappear out of nowhere but because you have the will of wanting to be self disciplined you will work hard on changing your flaws into qualities (some of them for sure). This is where the self discipline will come in full set because you will have to fight against your own self to avoid these flaws that block you from being the best at what you want (relationships, career goals, better health, finances and more).
Meditation and or Recapitulation. From every steps achieved, never forget to take the time for your mind to catch up to where you are right now and where you need to go. What I mean by that is that you need to take the time to put your mind at ease, meditate, clear your thoughts in your mind, try to figure out the moves you made until now, how did they make you feel? Good? Bad? Still don't know? Maybe need more time? What are the faux pas you made so far? What are the the things you did and actually helped you? You can ask all of these questions to yourself through your meditation by even writing them out because mediation is not only closing your eyes and "humming", it can also come from taking a time of silence, take your book or diary, and make notes, ask yourself the right questions and writing them down. This is why I also said "and or recapitulation" because you are doing a summary of your journey so far and how you can make it better.
Have the "Will". At the end of the day, creating or maintaining self discipline also comes from having the will of being self discipline. You need to be willing to put in the work, to accept the frustrations you will experience, the annoyance, the confusion and more. Willingness is the key to be able to do all the steps enumerated above.
The power of self discipline can be scary just reading or hearing it. This power comes in many forms and we all have the power to be self disciplined and maintain it. These key points are few among many but if you get to understand these, you are on the path on creating your own self discipline and never forget that self discipline is within you and only you have have the power to willed it.